Everyone’s got something.

A year or so ago, I randomly met a guy that I was immediately intimidated by, and I’m not usually a person who gets “intimidated” by others easily. But this guy was sharp looking, appeared extremely confident, and I assumed he had life by the tail.

Within minutes of meeting him though, he shared that his wife had recently left him and he was struggling with an addiction. 

“I’m depressed and I’ve never felt more broken in my life,” he said. “I’m so unsure of everything.”

It wasn’t at all what I expected.

A few things to remember whenever you (or I) think we know someone’s story:  

  1. Never assume.

Never assume who someone is or what they’re going through. We’re all pretty good at hiding things. We tend to “Instagram” our lives as much as we possibly can.

Instead of assuming, get to know a person. Hear their story. Ask questions and listen.

Instead of assuming, get to know a person. Hear their story. Ask questions and listen.

Talk to someone for a while before you make (good or bad) assumptions about what their life is like based on how it looks like from the outside.

  1. Everyone has a battle.

The saying, “everyone is fighting a battle of some kind” is true. It looks different for each person, but everyone we meet is walking through something or has in the past.

Often we believe the lie that we’re the only ones.

The only person that has made an embarrassing mistake.
Struggled with a temptation.
Felt insecure.
Walked through a certain trial.

But we’re not.

Some battles are noticeable, others not so much, but everyone is wrestling with something.

Some battles are noticeable, others not so much, but everyone is wrestling with something.

If only we’d slow down and take notice.

  1. Be quick to be kind.

We are so quick to judge, criticize, and hate on people. Be quick to show kindness instead.

Feeling like judging someone? Gossiping? Pray instead.

Knowing that others are fighting battles of their own should change the way we treat them.

Knowing that others are fighting battles of their own should change the way we treat them.

Instead of being a jerk to someone who’s being a jerk, encourage them. Give grace. Serve.

Kindness has the power to change people from the inside out.

Yes, these things can change the other person. But also, they can change you, they can change me.

  1. Share your brokenness.

Don’t be afraid to share your brokenness.

Often, I think that sharing my imperfections will make others think less of me. But when I heard a small part of that guy’s story, it made me respect and appreciate him even more.

Share where you have failed in the past. Your struggles. Your disappointments.

Everyone’s got something. 

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19 Comments on "Everyone’s got something."

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Mark Johnston

According to our social media accounts, we have thousands of friends. Thank you Adam for reminding us about why friends help friends….no judgement…just grace. Life is hard. This is solid relationship stuff.

Karen

So true, possibly because we’re proud and don’t want anyone to know that our life is not all roses. We feel we have to keep up the facade, wear the mask most of the day, and fall apart when we get home. Most of us have been there, unfortunately.

Anonymous

Nice blog. Simple to follow. Quick read. Great reminders. Thanks!

Anonymous

Great reminders Adam. Thanks for your encouragement!

Bea Stucke

Keeping our hearts and minds open to the ones we meet and take time to listen.
This is a good reminder especially before the long Labor Day weekend when we see people we know and meet new ones.
Thanks Adam!!!!

Molly Donohue

Another great blog post, Adam. It’s so easy for us as humans to make assumptions and think it’s greener on the other side when in reality it’s likely not. I love your point #4. The older I get, the more open I am and that has been freeing. Thanks for the post!

Bonnie Brock

Adam,
Thanks for the reminder. I agree too many times people judge, should we say, “a book by it’s cover,’ instead of taking time to get to know someone and hear their story. I have found the listening to be extremely helpful.

George

Thank you Adam, for reminding us that everyone has a “story” no matter how wonderful it looks on the outside. All peoples struggle. We can make a difference in the life of one person by saying something affirming and kind. And we can make a difference by resisting the “urge” to criticize and judge, two actions which can wound deeply. I don’t want to be a “wounder.” i want to be a “healer.”

Billy

Thanks for being real. I often find myself in situations that I don’t know if sharing my brokenness would help another person and then later realize that it not only helped them but allowed me to be free from being as sick as my secrets. Keep up the good work my friend. Kentucky misses you and your family and love you much.

Faye

Mr Weber, thank you much!!
You are writing my heart. I love your 5 day devotional on Talking with God, Life is crazy, Prayer is simple!! So good!! I was surprised, you are from my husband & my home state of good old South Dakota!!
Thanks for all your wisdom & insight God has given you!!
Yes, there is always someone who needs a smile, a hug, & prayer or however the Holy Spirit leads us!!
God continue to bless you & your ministry!!

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